I personally try not to use the term “Lgbt Rights” though I believe in it passionately. I think words like this could be misunderstood by those who are not truly open to the message of equality, and could antagonise.
Everyone should have the same rights as the next, shouldn’t they?
When you say ‘lgbt rights’ what some people are actually hearing is “to hell with the rest of us!” rather than the equality we are aspiring to. Naturally this goes for ANY minority group.
By this point you may be thinking “to hell with them” after all I think most of us that are openly lgbt have come across some form of phobia in some form or another throughout our lives.
If we are not portraying ourselves as more inclusive, are we pushing others away now that we are making significant progress? Does it not make the bullied turn into the bully? Would the circle of hatred inevitably continue into a downward motion? This of course is something most LGBT persons would agree is not what we actually believe in.
Somehow we have to continue getting the message across that we don’t want anything better than anyone else, simply the same as others. Anyone who recognises themselves in any minority group should also understand what we have learnt over time through the injustice of others and will understand how important equality is for everyone. In order to grow we need to embrace the term “Equality” and amalgamate.
Often I have come across LGBT persons suffer prejudices from other minorities, and similarly I have seen prejudices against other minorities from LGBT persons. Yet just like the other groups of our LGBT family could these other minorities make good allies, as we all could learn from each other?
We need to ask ourselves could we sit down with other minorities and form bonds, growing, learning and supporting each other on our journey.
In the more organised world of equality with groups such as the Human Rights group Amnesty International, the concept has been fulfilled for decades. However, to move that into our own attitudes is taking some adjusting. Perhaps it’s not only the attitudes of the aggressive homophobes that need focus but our own tactics and attitudes in order to subtly overcome them.
The battle for attitude adjustment will probably end much later than the change of laws. Attitudes can take centuries to change as they are often passed down from generation to generation.
I have adjusted myself over the last few years, instead of using the term “Gay Marriage” I now use the term “Equal marriage for all”, in this author’s opinion, I am surprised by how many people that don’t use this phrase.
It’s just a question of thinking up some subtle power phrases that suit our own temperament in order to adjust our words and get our point across. I have also noticed friends using terms I have passed across to them, no doubt getting the message through to people beyond them who are homo-unaware (or worse).
We also have to accept that everyone has the right to believe in what they wish to, ultimately others need to do the same. Just the same as they must accept that some people may not believe in their God. Thus, in one person’s eyes the argument that “homosexuality is against the laws of God” is irrelevant to another person. In the same light their Religion should be respected too, but more to the point we should emphasise this. Should anyone’s beliefs be mocked by others?
For example, gay rights, feminism, disabled rights and black rights all will have people in them that fall in other groups too. Remembering back to the LGBT house that we all live in together, perhaps it’s time to move the house into Equality Street in order to protect and learn from each other and be stronger in the eyes of our enemies. You may even discover that a few of us live at Number 12 and party at 14 on a regular basis!
By mixing more with other minorities and working together on an organised and unorganised basis will also benefit society in general. Slowly we will adjust and understand the world’s of others, and their needs ending a ghettoised street where no one mixes, allowing others onto Equality Street and making it a village, town, city, country and ultimately an Equal World.