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What advice would you give on coming out?

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Last updated on 24th December 2016

Coming out can be hard to do, so I asked everyone what advice would they give to someone? 

@WilRidley

You’re are never alone and it will get better also come out when YOU are ready.

@Fluent_in_Bitch

Make sure you’re ready and prepared for a negative outcome. But stand proud of who you are. You are beautiful.

@_AlexxMeows

find your tribe, make sure you know the risks and/or consequences of it all, and be true to yourself and personality.

@gail_mcpartland 
Be patient with others. It probably took you a while to accept it so it will probably be the same for others. Plenty of support out there. 


@_JuLiAiLuJ
If you are underage and you think your parents are gonna react badly, don’t do it unless u got a backup plan.

@BaileyMagno

No matter what you’ll always wish you did it sooner.

@txgirl1963

Be strong in your truth . Stay true to yourself , others opinions don’t define you . Love yourself always

@NikkiSamuel 

You had time to accept and love who you are, sometimes you have to let others take a little time. That was my experience.

@Phil_and_ering 

B sure-B brave-Find support-Practice your speech-Don’t have expectations-Educate yourself 2 answer ?’s or refute lies.

@rbcook1304 

Be yourself. Never let what others do or say change you. Seek support from local lgbtq groups. Remember, you are not alone.

@Anni_McCarthy

It’s critical to be & defend yourself.They moved on me in the US Army in the 70s & I fought them & won.

@garypgarrett

Don’t be afraid to be yourself and own it with pride.

@eurigmorgan 

Be careful who you tell. I have a friend who, every time he tells someone, it’s one friend lost.
@opinion8tdbitch

Breathing and living is so much easier outside of the closet. I did it 6yrs ago and don’t regret it. You can do it too!

@KrabbyPatty0001

You have to be confident, and “own” it, be comfortable and calm/clear headed, dont panic,and be brave.

@realitypotatoes 
What’s most important to the people who truly love you is your happiness. Being true to yourself leads you to happiness

@MissionCheckL

Its not the end but a beautiful beginning

@DJTBD

There is no pause or rewind button in life, every moment u wait ur missing out on experiences you can’t get back

@Woobies00

Love yourself because you deserve it.

@KansasCityLGBT 

Be true to yourself. Even when the going gets tough, and it will.

@DavidLloydRadio

Who you are matters much more to you than to anyone else. Be yourself.

@pflagperth
Tell your parents to contact PFLAG, all welcome! We love & cherish our rainbow kids & exist to support their family

@youngsaki

Make sure you have someone or some people who have your back

@matoli69

Be!, Be yourself, Be happy,  Be proud and live, live, live.

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@xbatuu
It gets better, never give up.

@MoldTheMinds
Start small, with your inner circle first, then work your way out-or do like I did and tell the whole world at once.

@A_CreativeEdge
Come out in your own time. And, if you suspect birth family will reject you, make sure your chosen family is solid.

@SimonHeadley1
Don’t be pressured into doing it, do it when you feel ready and not before. 
@iwritetragedies
It will be hard and maybe even painful, but in the end you’ll feel lighter, you’ll feel free.

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@datIuis
Make sure you’re safe. Take your time. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t let others undermine you.

@roygaybiv
wait until you’re ready! don’t be pressured into it. it’s your life, you’ll know when❤️

@rosahayes
Nothing is ever as it seems. Trust your instincts. Embrace the freedom to be yourself.

@TheKalamazooGay
Don’t just leave porn open on the computer. That usually doesn’t go over very well

@OrmondDerrick
Never be ashamed of who you are, be sure you’re ready & are individually stable before telling those you depend on

@talesovertails
The world is ready and waiting to love the real you. Be safe, but have fun.

@CaseyHester1500
Just take your time, and understand that some people don’t get it. If anything you are teaching people how to accept.

@ThisIsBeverly

First of all… Know that you actually know who and what you are. Live your life and not a stereotype imposed on you.

@jimthevic

Coming out first to an #LGBTQI* person for advice & establish support networks. Then at YOUR pace to people you trust.
Know that coming out never ends! You have to decide who needs to know what in any given social group or relationship.

@Aunty_Vicki

Be ready & strong; prepare for the worst while hoping for the best; be ready for the stream of questions & have answers.

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@madavis323

Do it in your own time; in your own way. Despite how cliche it sounds – it does get better from even the best of circumstances.

Coming out is hard to do, but then your truth shall set you free #LoveIsLove

@pppabblo

Do it when YOU are ready. Stay safe. Take care. Trust that it DOES get better. Love yourself and be proud of who you are!

@tomhammell

You matter and you’re loved. And you don’t need anyone in your life who tells you otherwise.

@_M_pulse

Remember that everyday is a coming out process and that you’re always growing but remember you are enough and loved.

@brokeslut

Only come out when YOU are ready. If you feel unsafe, do not let anyone rush you. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

@coffee_Lezzy

If you might be to scared to say it to someone there are other ways to them text, letter, etc

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@MotorizedMillie 
Never be ashamed to live in and speak your own truth

@DCHomos

Make sure it’s on your own terms. Make sure you’re ready. Don’t be afraid. You are not alone.

Wear sunscreen.

Which prompted @2B_Painfree to say

Always wear sunscreen…try #bluelizard bottle changes color 😉

@BatCaveFreak

Tell friends first. You should have a support system before you tell your parents just in case something goes wrong.

@gaywad5000
coming out will show you who your true friends are.

@GeekNStereo

Make sure you have someone who is supportive, on standby to call if you need to decompress and breathe

@JudsonK217

Don’t ever be ashamed of being yourself, be proud.

@slothsrights
If you can’t bring yourself to say what you need in person, consider writing a letter.

@FiendNikki adds

Or a video.

@TMatthews__ 

Be safe, and be unapologetic. You’re braver than you think. And the freeing feeling after is like no feeling in the world.

@briangilad

Be kind/conscious/patient w/U! Ask when/who is 2B 1st Hope for the best/prepare for not! Took U time/They may need 2

And the final tweet…… 

@jayjhisaurus

Tell your wife first.

If you want your advise adding to this series, please contact me on @Mattersofpride or at pridematters1@gmail.com

A big thank you for everyone taking part.

Remember be the best YOU that YOU can be!

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Extra information. 

Here are Wipe out Homophobia’s pages on advice for families and lgbtqia persons. 

http://www.stop-homophobia.com/comingout.htm

http://www.stop-homophobia.com/my-coming-out

The above are also available in Spanish. 

http://wp.me/p78BZ8-15E

There is plenty of support out there for parents too. 

Pflag groups are global. Here are a few of countries groups websites. 

UK – http://www.pflag.co.uk/

Canada – http://pflagcanada.ca/

USA – https://www.pflag.org/

Australia -http://pflagaustralia.org.au/

If you would like your countries pflag group adding please contact us with the details.



We are constantly updating these pages with more information, please keep checking and advising. 


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One thought on “What advice would you give on coming out?

  1. I think you should do in a way what I did. I took a week to plan out how I’m going to do it, and if my parents had a certain response I would have an answer to them, even though I still ended up crying.

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