Book Reviews

​Asexual Perspectives 

​47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex,ACElebration of Asexual Diversity!

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, they are all different in their likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.Right now, there seems to be a growing number of people within the asexual community who feel it is their right to tell others what type of asexual they can and can’t be, and while suggestions and advice can be helpful to discover where they fit on the spectrum, blatantly denying that person the right to express their own asexual identity is wrong! There are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, and these need to be addressed and broken through!The world has changed with the advancement of technology and social media, and now is it easier than ever to connect with other asexuals around the globe, for relationships, friendships, and to arrange meet-ups!The asexual community has expanded vastly since the early days of Aven and there are new terms coming out to describe the way in which asexuals identify that were not around years ago. This can invariably lead to some discrepancies in terms of identifications.But you don’t need to fit in to an exact specific asexual box to still be asexual. If you don’t experience sexual attraction towards a specific person, you are asexual. If you cannot feel sexual attraction until you have formed a strong emotional bond with a specific person, you are still on the asexual spectrum. If you experience sexual attraction but only under specific circumstances or you experience it but not enough to act on it, you are still on the asexual spectrum. It’s up to you to be honest with yourself and others in determining your own asexual identity!If you identify as asexual do you – Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?Feel alone?Misunderstood?Misplaced?Broken?Left out?Not recognised?Have no one to relate to?Find it difficult to find others like you?Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this bookyou will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectivesfrom 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!In this book you will: Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous Aces and many more. Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual. Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world! Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal. Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks. Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in. Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids. Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not. Uncover the positives about being asexual. Get first hand advice about asexuality from those who are asexual and know what you are going through and what you may come up against. Including what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.I wrote this book, because I was told I could not identify as a heteroromantic, Grey A, by someone in the asexual community, because I did not match the standard definition of a Grey A, as they saw it. I think it’s really important to recognise our differences; and that we all have something to contribute to the world and towards helping others to better understand their asexuality. Our diversity should be embraced and celebrated, not be treated with hostility and torn apart.”I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

This book is available to buy in both Kindle format and paperback, Amazon.co.uk http://amzn.to/2tKcaUF Amazon.com http://amzn.to/2sHFRGj 

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of http://www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can stillmake a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.
To celebrate Asexual Perspectives being published in print, and our diversity across the Asexual spectrum and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, ACElebration of Asexual Diveristy.

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