My voice: Darren Marples @pridematters1 (twitter) 

Hello,

I am the creator of Pride matters. I identity as a gay man. I live somewhere in the North of England. A small northern town on the edge of Sherwood Forest.

Recently it was decided that the main articles should concentrate on interviews, articles of interest and our little projects, with some history thrown in there too. 

Although I will write on there with subject matters too this is to focus  on my own opinions, as the main articles look at others opinions, facts and alike. Eventually other members of our team will have a chance to do the same. So enjoy!

Friday 23rd June 2017

I have just listened to my interview with @SUGPodcast and it is pretty good. He was very good with the questions and I guess people will understand myself more and my intentions. 

I made a couple of errors, nothing too major. The program Dustin Lance Black created was called When we rise.

Also my novel is more fiction than non fiction. It’s more based on life experiences than life, the charaters are a mash up of people I have come across and myself of course. A close friend said she couldn’t help feel the narrator was myself, I see myself in all three of the main charaters. There is an element of mystery about it too. It’s based in a made up town on the edge of sherwood, so it needs that in it in my opinion. I guess the small towns round here are mashed up in it too. Anyway more of that in 2045 once it is completed. 

There appears to be a little interference in it part way through, bear with it as it does clear. 

I love some feedback as I think my interview technique is lame, but we are our own worst critiques. 


The Straight Up Gay Podcast: Episode 22 – Darren from Pride Matters: https://t.co/lZKgVxMH1m https://t.co/4Ua51JGSmW

Thursday 22nd June 2017

Not really totally lgbt related but I felt I should make some points I feel. 

Money is power and power is money. 

It is a fact of life and you don’t have to look far through the papers to see how evident it is. Just look at the shocking events at Grenfell Tower and how the poorest residents of the richest borough in the country were ignored for too long. Many people should be hold accountable now and an enquiry into the way councils are ran taken into consideration too. 

 Often we are over looked by political dogma within the LGBT community,  until we start fighting back. We all owe it to ourselves to fight for justice, be it Grenfell or our movement.

Lets face it we have some feisty experts with awesome skills. 

There is so much you can do in order to achieve justice, if you fight for the poor or if you fight for lgbtqia rights. It doesn’t matter who you fight for as long as you have passion in your hearts.

Take a few moments out to think about the fallen at the hands of injustice and ask how you can make the world a better place. It’s irrelevant if it’s a lgbtqia charity or a tragedy it all amounts to the same. The truth is because of the hardships the LGBTQIA community have face we tend to be compassionate people, we know we can make a difference. 

We can make the world a better place. 

My heart goes out to the poorer residents of the borough and my anger to the people in power.

I strongly suggest if you afford to give to the crowdfunding efforts, please do so. These people  need our love right now. 

Help raise £2000000 to Help the families of Grenfell Tower, West London who ha.. Please #donate on @justgiving and RT https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/familiesofgrenfelltower?utm_id=66&utm_term=BMwn3pPj4

Monday 12 th June 2017
Today marks the first year since a lone gun man chose a gay bar in Orlando and shot dead 49 innocent victims. We need to reflect and fight against the hate in this world, because there is far too much. Since Orlando there has been too much hate that has caused death because of ignorance and beliefs of others. I’m not just referring to the recent attacks on my country or the rest of Europe but the attacks that are stealth in comparison.

The ones that can kill people by proxy, the others that appear to be endorsed by belief but if anyone is hurting others with a book then they are not reading it right. 

We may not win the war tommorow but if enough of us fight for peace, love and understanding one day love will win. 

Only today I was informed of a Facebook page that was truly homophobic but the author felt as though it is his mission and his duty to God to tell people they are sinning simply because they are lgbtqia. 

It may be open for criticism and controversial but there is a connection in my eyes between such accounts and attacks on innocent people. Hate is hate just as love is love. 

I like to reflect on how others feel all the time but I don’t understand the mindset of someone who thinks it’s OK to enforce their beliefs on others telling them they will go to hell. I know one thing for sure evil towards others is not an angelic move. 

We need to spread love and understanding, something I set up Pride matters to do. I need more helpers so if you wish to get involved please do and help in this fight for love. 

Some things we won’t be able to stop but others we can fight for. 

Remember the fallen but fight for those who are rising. 

Sunday 11 th June 2017

This morning a tweet surfaced about something that Ellen DeGeneres once said.

A tweet that sums up my feelings but in ways doesn’t go far enough in my view. 

“Do we have to know who’s gay and who’s straight? Can’t we just love everybody and judge them by the cars they drive?” – Ellen DeGeneres https://t.co/KM3ApwVgOd



Although I agree with the fact we don’t need to know others gender or sexuality at all times,  and we shouldn’t need to know anything any of the individual at all.

We should never need to know anything about them unless of course it is hurting them or others.

Who care what car you are driving and who cares who you are sleeping with! 

While you are judging something so trivial something more important is being missed. 

Love and acceptance. 

We do however need to keep the conversation going about gender and sexuality, something many who read this brilliant meeme may fail to understand.

It’s not important to know where or how someone fits, but they have a space and we need to focus on how human it is to be diverse. 

Often people are judged because they are different.

I remember at school that we all wore uniforms and the debate on wearing them broke out. One thing that was suggested that children from poorer backgrounds would be judged and maybe bullied if they didn’t have the latest brands.

People automatically judge instantly and this is the real issue. Not that you have a label but what it stands for.

I was bullied at school, not because I was gay but because I had ginger hair and a speech impediment. Both are my greatest assets today. My childhood speech impediment taught me so much about determination and how painful it can be to be judged.  If you ever get the opportunity to hear my vioce you would hardly notice it was there. 

However people judge others for even having the wrong car or not having a car at all. Perhaps it should be judging others that aren’t really hurting anyone that should change, not how we identify ourselves. 

Wednesday 7th June 2017

Tommorow us Brits are back off to the polls. It seems that we keep turning up there and moving further away from a unified outcome, only returning again with more political unrest.

What was certain eight weeks ago doesn’t seem so certain today. 

I did ask recently on our twitter feed if the followers sexuality and gender influenced your party support. Over sixty percent said yes.

I wish I could go back in time and do the same poll twenty or thirty years ago when Section 28 was one of many obstacles in the way of the LGBTQIA community.

When youths couldn’t find comfort or information to protect their sexuality or gender and even find solace in education. I think the results would have been different. 

The truth is, we are moving towards more equality and understanding than ever, despite the set backs from both the far right and the left, whilst I’m stuck in the middle with you. 

We are winning. Although not won. So much needs to be done. 

So who would be the best party to vote for in regards of sexuality and gender issues?

Back when May entered parliament she voted against any issues that favoured lgbtqia rights and when the tied began to turn she turned also.

The conservatives have still got that old school element about them in fractions that raise their ugly heads and makes decisions that as individuals are considered to be of a more Thatcher government. We need to remember that May also is in favour of scraping ECHR which the LGBTQIA community has used to its advantage over the years. 

Farron, the leader of the Lib Dems refused until forced to make a statement to make his views on homosexuality being a sin or not, despite the Lib Dems always being a party with many lgbtqia followers it still affects people’s view. We need to add to this the recent gay water outburst from one candidate to their list of Black marks too. 

There is no point in mentioning ukip’s many quips on sexuality and gender as I haven’t the time to list them all. Despite their stance on many things I’m assured they have lgbtqia members. Just like the conservatives have a lesbian cabinet minister and Lib dems and labour and….. 

Well you get the picture! 

On the fairness of party politics, let’s talk about choices!

Cobyn made a speech recently that at the end used the phrase choice, as though someone chooses to be gay, bi, trans, even intersex, or not feel sexual attraction at all. This was a speech not a adhoc quip. I’m amused and concerned noone picked him up on it at some point prior. It’s almost as bad a holding the lgbt flag upside down.

However we all have choices and we all have a choice to vote and who to vote for!

For  the first time I can remember I don’t feel that I will choose to vote on who is bad for the LGBTQIA community because compared to the conservatives in the 1980’s who are to blame for alot of heart ache and lost of lives I think they are all as bad, or as good as each other right now. 

I also feel it’s time to vote for who would serve us all equally as a part of the British Isles (or at least your part).

I also feel the most important thing to do is get out their and vote! 

Monday 5th June 2017

Working on Pride matters my eyes are wide open to internal anti lgbtqia sentiment and criticism. Only today I noticed on one of my time lines someone attacking another group as a whole for their ignorance towards their own group. I get it! I really do, but equally the attacking of others is not going to solve the issue. 

There is enough hatred in the world without adding to it!

Ask yourself will complaining about others solve the issue of internal ignorance? 

Answer: No! 

It will only give you high blood pressure. 

The reason I set up Pride Matters was to help to unite at least a little part of the community. Every spare moment I have, which is becoming less and less by the day because of personal commitments is spent working with all parts of the community to try and find ways to give them voices. It is hard at times but along with many people’s help I and others work away.

Some volunteers are more vocal than others,  and some only whisper ideas to me,  or advice. Others are extremely creative. They ethier write or design or simply come up with new concepts. A close friend of mine who is a bisexual male works on the proofing and editing. Another who is a transgender female puts the wordings on all our cards and writes articles too. We even have a trans support group now. They all help out and give direction too. Any article that is writen about or is for a certain group is by that group or has involved that group in order to give them voices too. Naturally not everyone will agree with the opinion of others but it is someone’s opinion nonetheless. So if you feel the urge to moan about another part of the community can I simply ask you a simple question. 

What are you doing to bring us all closer together? 

If you want to get involved with what we do to spread more love within our community contact me on @Mattersofpride on twitter or send an email to pridematters1@gmail.com 

Above: one of our original cards.